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Hi [10 Sep 2015|12:26am]

emmabubx
Hi, I'm Emma, I'm 22, and I'm new to the community and would love some people to talk to about what we're all going though; two of my best friends went through something similar when we were younger but managed to stop, not that I'm jealous, but I'm sure that everyone here can relate to the feeling of failure if they have friends in the same situation. But now, I feel as if I can't talk to anyone about it, and I just need someone to check in with, that's going through the same things.
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[20 Dec 2011|06:37pm]

arya0c
I have so many urges to cut. The doctors want to put me on a pill that helps quell cravings. Says it might help. I dont want help with cutttinnggg. I just want help with my moods. Ill handle the cutting on my own time.But another part of me wants to stop. Stop cutting, and get 100 % better. But I struggle. Sometimes I want to stop, but a lot of the time I dont. I struggle with the urges and wiether I am ready to stop or not.
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[13 Dec 2011|06:07pm]

prettyloser362
hey everyone, i am 18 and utterly lost. im so tired of watching my best friend cry because i cut. i cut words in my body. usually when they mean something. i have die bitch along my arm. if i was going to cut to kill myself it would be on my arm. worthless, pathetic, unlovable. disgusting and bitch are very common. i dont want to stop i just want to stop hurting my friends and family. when i couldnt cut i took a safety pin and used it to cut words on my skin. they take a while but you blled eventually. the other night i resorted to burning my arm. i guess when i zone out i scratch myself. it bleeds a lot. i dont even know how i can get so deep with my nails. i have been thinking about putting nails in my body with a hammer. i hate being twisted.
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I self harm [05 Dec 2011|10:32pm]

arya0c
[ mood | tired ]

I am 18, and while I know most on here have been cutting for years...I only have been for several months. But already it feels like it has been forever. In a way it has been, ever since I was 6 I have thought about suicide, anorexia, bulimia, and of course cutting. But I have never been able to follow through on any...until recently. I would get as far as putting the knife to my skin, than letting the knife slip from my grasp. I finally cut this year, and have stopped eating at times-- but only for brief periods (a few days, maybe a week). For me...things move quickly and fade even faster. So I was able to stop cutting for almost two full weeks after I had upped it to over 20 cuts a day, but now I have gone back to cutting. I am not looking to stop. I dont want to do it the rest of my life but...I dont want to stop just yet. Not until I get a handle on life and all its problems. But eventually yes, I will want to stop. Just not yet. I like to cut because it gives me a sense of control. First it was for the relief, then for the pain, then for the control.

I figure Im not the only one in the world who feels this way....but I was just hoping for someone to talk to who understands.

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Please Help Us Understand Self-harm [24 Oct 2010|10:30pm]
perl_sfu
 Hello again from the Personality and Emotion Research Laboratory (PERL)!

Would you like to help us understand how to help people who self-harm? We are currently recruiting participants for the second phase of our research on self-harm, and we want your help! We are looking for people who have self-injured, whether you are currently trying to stop or not, to complete questionnaires every 3 months for one year to understand patterns of self-harm over time. Participating in the study takes 2 hours, and you will receive an online gift certificate worth $5 CAD for each time point you complete, plus a chance for a $25 bonus if you complete all the follow-ups over one year for a total of $50.

If you are interested in participating, please email us at emotion@sfu.ca. All your information will be kept confidential, and no identifying information is linked to your responses.


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THE DETAILS:

Background Information:

Self-injury (sometimes called “self-harm”) involves harming yourself on purpose. Some examples include cutting or burning yourself, taking an overdose of pills, or banging your head. Right now, very little is known about why people start or stop self-harming. The Personality and Emotion Research Lab (PERL), a research team from Simon Fraser University in Canada, is conducting a study to learn more about the experiences of people who self-harm, and we want your help! We are interested in how emotions, life experiences, stress and coping styles affect self-harm. We hope that this research will help other people understand more about why people self-harm and what they can do to help.

What you can do:

If you want to participate in this study, you will fill out online questionnaires on self-harm, emotions, coping, symptoms, and life events. These questionnaires will take approximately 2 hour to complete. Later, you’ll have a chance to complete follow-up questionnaires over a 12 month period. Although the first session is long, the follow-up questionnaires are shorter, and usually take on 30 to 90 minutes to complete.

Who can participate:

We are looking for people who currently self-harm (whether you are trying to stop or not), AND those who have self-harmed in the past and quit.You must be at least 16 years old to participate.

What’s in it for you:

Participants who complete the questionnaires will receive a $5 (Canadian currency) gift certificate each time you complete the questionnaires (from amazon.com or PayPal). In addition, you will receive a $25 bonus if you complete all five follow-ups in the first year! Telling us about your experiences will give us important information on how self-harm changes over time, and could help develop and improve treatments for people who want to stop self-harming.

Important Information:

This study is the second phase of this line of research, and builds on the previous study. If you have already participated in our research (in a study called “Characteristics Associated with Self-Injury”), you are still eligible to complete this study.

Please contact us at emotion@sfu.ca if you are interested in participating or if you have any questions.

Thank you,

Personality and Emotion Research Laboratory (PERL)
Simon Fraser University
Department of Psychology
RCB5246, 8888 University Drive
Burnaby, BC, Canada V5A 1S6
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The Solution [14 Oct 2010|07:19pm]

manic_insomnia
The solution. Right now, for me, actually sounds like cutting. I haven't for 2 years or so, but things have gotten bad with my triggers. Bad in that, I don't feel as much anymore, I've given up on the emotions and am just numb from how pathetic I am, and how disgusted I am with myself. At least cutting made me deal. Right now I don't know how to deal when I can't feel, when I keep failing hard, and my addictions and traumas can't go away. Will I be confined like this forever- does it even get any better? I forgot I had issues, until after 3-4 months of no problems, from working so hard, and feeling so good- it all went to shit. I won't cut, but it doesn't mean that I don't think of it as the only real solution, because it doesn't hurt nearly as much, as how much I hate myself for being so disgusting.
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tips to distract [19 Sep 2010|10:09pm]
potterfreak1
When you are triggered the best thing to try and do is ground yourself by doing activities such as the ones on this list:

1. breathe slowly and deeply. In for 5 seconds. Hold for 5 seconds. Out for 5 seconds. and keep repeating it over and over.

2. Use your 5 senses. Smell 5 things where you are now. Taste 5 things. Hear 5 things. See 5 things. Touch 5 things. BUT if one of the senses is what triggered you don't use that sense, skip over it and use another one twice.

3. Call someone you trust, like a friend or your T

4. Write in a journal

5. Draw

6. Change your scenery. If you are outside go inside and visa versa.

7. Write poetry or a story

8. Read a book

9. Play video games

10. Write a letter to someone who hurt you. Then crumple it up and throw it away. Put all the thoughts down on paper as if you would show the person but tear it up and never show them. That is a way for you to get it out.

11. Go for a walk or jog. Be mindful, look at your surroundings and feel the sun, rain, snow, hot, cold.

12. Hold ice in your hand. The cold will snap you back to the present and wont leave any marks

13. Snap a rubber band against your wrist. Once again it will bring you back to the present.

14. Repeat phrases such as "I am safe now" "It's over" "It's just a memory"

15. If you have a pet like a dog or cat pet them, brush them, hug them. Pets hold unconditional love for their owners and are amazing at making people feel better.

Add your own to this list...

http://selfhelp.yuku.com
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Volunteers Needed for a Research Study on Self Injury [25 Jul 2010|10:50am]

odu_researcher
Dear LJ Community,
 
The recruitment for our self injury study is now complete.
 
Thank you for your support of our research. Please feel free to email me with any questions you may have.
 
Sincerely,
 
~Tatyana Kholodkov
Graduate Student
Old Dominion University 
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Please Help Researchers Understand Self-harm [14 Apr 2010|10:34am]
perl_sfu

 

 
Hello from the Personality and Emotion Research Laboratory (PERL)!

We're entering our last couple weeks of recruitment for our current study on self-harm.  A big thank you to those of you who have already participated in this research, your input and willingness to share your experiences with us is incredibly valuable!  To those who still want to participate, just send us an email at chapman_lab@sfu.ca.  You can find a bit more information about the study below.

Thanks again, and best wishes!

The Personality and Emotion Research Lab

*****************************************************************************************************

 

Would you like to help us understand how to help people who self-harm?

 

Self-injury (sometimes called “self-harm”) involves harming yourself on purpose. Some examples include cutting or burning yourself, taking an overdose of pills, or banging your head. Right now, very little is known about why people start or stop self-harming. The Personality and Emotion Research Lab (PERL), a research team from Simon Fraser University in Canada, is conducting a study to learn more about the experiences of people who self-harm, and we want your help!  We are interested in how emotions, life experiences, stress and coping styles affect self-harm. We hope that this research will help other people understand more about why people self-harm and what they can do to help. 

 

What you can do: If you want to participate in this study, you will fill out online questionnaires on self-harm, emotions, coping, symptoms, and life events. These questionnaires will take approximately 2 hours to complete.  

 

Who can participate: We are looking for people who currently self-harm (whether you are trying to stop or not) AND those who have self-harmed in the past and quit.

 

What’s in it for you: Participants who complete the questionnaires will be paid $5 CAD (money transfers via PayPal). You can also choose to participate in our long-term study, where you will fill out a shorter version of the questionnaires every three months for two years. You will be paid $5 CAD each time you complete a set of questionnaires (about 30 min each), and you will get a $15 CAD bonus once you have completed all 9 sets for a total of $60 CAD. Telling us about your experiences will give us important information on how self-harm changes over time, and could help develop and improve treatments for people who want to stop self-harming.

 

Please contact us at perl@sfu.ca if you are interested in participating or if you have any questions.

 

Thank you,

 

Personality and Emotion Research Laboratory (PERL)

Simon Fraser University

Department of Psychology
RCB5246, 8888 University Drive
Burnaby, BC, Canada V5A 1S6


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Help Researchers Understand Self-harm [31 Mar 2010|02:21pm]
perl_sfu

 
Hello again from the Personality and Emotion Research Laboratory (PERL)!

Would you like to help us understand how to help people who self-harm? We are currently recruiting participants for the second phase of our research on self-harm, and we want your help! Participating in the study takes only 90 minutes, and you will be entered into a draw to win one of five prizes of $150 CAD. If you are interested, please email us at chapman_lab@sfu.ca. All your information will be kept confidential, and no identifying information is linked to your responses.

**************************************************************
THE DETAILS:

Background Information: Self-injury (sometimes called “self-harm”) involves harming yourself on purpose. Some examples include cutting or burning yourself, taking an overdose of pills, or banging your head. Right now, very little is known about why people start or stop self-harming. The Personality and Emotion Research Lab (PERL), a research team from Simon Fraser University in Canada, is conducting a study to learn more about the experiences of people who self-harm, and we want your help! We are interested in how emotions, life experiences, stress and coping styles affect self-harm. We hope that this research will help other people understand more about why people self-harm and what they can do to help.

What you can do: If you want to participate in this study, you will fill out online questionnaires on self-harm, emotions, coping, symptoms, and life events. These questionnaires will take approximately 90 minutes to complete.

Who can participate: We are looking for people who currently self-harm (whether you are trying to stop or not), AND those who have self-harmed in the past and quit.

What’s in it for you: Participants who complete the questionnaires will be entered in a draw to win one of five prizes of $150 CAD. Telling us about your experiences will give us important information on how self-harm changes over time, and could help develop and improve treatments for people who want to stop self-harming.

Important Information: This study is the second phase of this line of research, and builds on the previous study. If you have already participated in our research (in a study called “Characteristics Associated with Self-Injury”), you are still eligible to complete this study.


Please contact us at chapman_lab@sfu.ca if you are interested in participating or if you have any questions.

Thank you,

Personality and Emotion Research Laboratory (PERL)
Simon Fraser University
Department of Psychology
RCB5246, 8888 University Drive
Burnaby, BC, Canada V5A 1S6

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Hello [20 Mar 2010|09:25am]
sramondt
Hi,
 I'm new to this community and wanted to introduce myself. My name is Sarah and I am grad student in Massachusetts. I am finishing up my degree in Counseling and Psychology and am doing my thesis on Self harm and adolescents and am looking for adults who self harm or used to self harm to take my ANONYMOUS survey for my research.

I just want to say that I that came into this field originally as a high school health teacher and was inspired by one of my former students who came to me in privacy because she was cutting herself. I am currently a Crisis Coordinator at University and am really trying to shine some light on this area, because as you all know, not a lot of people can understand why people self-harm.

If you are interested in taking my anonymous survey, the link is:

http://freeonlinesurveys.com/rendersurvey.asp?sid=9vxws4q3soopo2m722449

Thanks so much for your help...you dont have a to create a username after you take the survey, you can just close it out.
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New Here [13 Mar 2010|04:30pm]

princess_six
Hi. My name is Hannah, I'm 22, and I've been cutting since I was 11.

I'm just looking for the support to quit. I've been trying for four months, I was three months clean, then it all came back.

And yeah, that is pretty much my story. I hope you guys/girls find more success than I did.

All the peace in the world. xxx
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ummmmm [16 Feb 2010|01:29am]

soph_ap
[ mood | curious ]

Completely new to this, i was just wondering
if i went to the doctors about my cutting, would they tell my parents? i'm 17 so not an adult so would they need to tell them, or would they just help me out.. y'know with a shrink or whatever?
thanks :)

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[15 Aug 2001|06:54am]

graceasaur
[ mood | depressed ]

My name is Grace and I have been cutting since I was 12. I am 14 now.

It started with a tack, just scratching my arm, no blood. From there I moved to surgical (I'm sorry, I don't know how to spell sissors, siscors. sizors... You get the point.) then I started stealing razor blades from my dad's shop. My current tool is the paper thin blades that are in shaving razors. They're kind of hard to get out, but they work for me.

I am homeschooled, and I barely see my one friend, James (which I wish was more then a friend). Maybe once a month?
My mom tends to yell and shout at me alot, calling me names, and I have a bad habit of mentally torturing myself. I also have the beginning of an eating disorder. I hate myself, I hate my body even though everyone tells me it's great (5'7, 138.8 and 36C), but I think I'm too fat and I think the only thing I like about myself is my scars. I starve myself, and feel disgusting when I eat more then a little bit of food, or more then one meal a day.

When my parents found out last summer that I was a cutter, my mom flipped, made me strip to see if I cut myself anywhere else but my arm (she saw it one day) and then my parents argued and fought. I went to a therpist once, my dad didn't want me to go, but I did and I asked my mom to come in too because I was kinda scared. I tried to be strong, but ended up digging my nails into my arm and bursting into tears when the psych asked me if I ever thought about suicide (I have. I have a plan) and my mom thought I was reacting to the question before and started ranting about how my dad was such a bad parent. I didn't talk for the rest of the session, and I never went back.

I was helpful at first, because I wanted help. I gave them my razor blades and a calender I had been using to track my cutting days.

They support slowly stopped, and they both decided that I was cutting because a (ex now) friend of mine was a cutter too. Actually, I was cutting way before I knew she even did it, but they wouldn't listen, they thought I was trying to be cool.

Yeah, nothing cooler then cutting yourself and drawing blood.

A few months ago, my mom found my blade stash and she asked if I wanted to see the shrink again, and I said yes. She set up a appointment, and then... She forgot. On the day of my appointment, she never took me, never rescheduled.... Nothing.

My parents don't care, I get yelled at if they see my cuts, and I'm slowly self-destructing. I want help before I accidently or purposely kill myself.

Please, comment below.

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[30 Jan 2010|06:38pm]

maliciouslyliz
[ mood | drained ]

Well uh, hi. I'm pretty new to this sort of stuff so bear with me please? My name's Elizabeth, most call me Lizzy or any variation of my name they want to call me. I've been a self harmer since I was 11 or 12(I think) but I've stopped several times before starting again and never been as bad as I am now. I burn, or scratch with safety pins but I tend to burn more. I'd like to stop, I really would and I'm starting counseling to try to. It's just.. I just find it hard not to. My head starts spinning or I disassociate and it seems like the only way sometimes. I've also got a habit of punishing myself by not eating. 

About me? I'm 18, as of last September. I have something called Fibromyalgia and something called Chronic Fatigue Syndrome along with my mental issues which makes things tough. I'm trying really hard to finish my senior year but finding it hard with my anxiety. I live in my writing and music and I think I'd hurt myself much  more if I didn't have either. For the good stuff, I've got a really great community of people who help me on a roleplaying site which distracts me quite a bit and a great girlfriend, she's amazing and I love her. And I've also got pretty good parents who try their best to help me.

I'd just like some people to talk to who know what it's like to deal with the same things. Or even just people to talk music or books with. Just anybody would be nice.

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Hello [26 Jan 2010|02:29am]

secretencounter
Hey everyone.

I just joined this to get to know other people and try and support others. I'm a self-harmer, and have been for over 2 years now. I'm trying to recover, but at the minute I'm not sure I see that as a possibility.

I'll friend anyone on here, just make sure you let me know you're from this group, as I like to stay anonymous so I'm cautious over who I add :)
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Hey everyone [17 Jan 2010|10:41pm]

ensangrentado_3
Hey everyone.  My name's Ashley, and I've been a cutter for almost five years, since I was fifteen.  I'm soft bipolar (Bipolar II), which if you don't know what that is, is basically bipolar without nearly as much mania.  I was misdiagnosed with depression for two years, and the medications didn't help until I was also put on a mood stabilizer, which helped balance out the slight mania with the deep depression.  It's different than being bipolar or depressed, it's weird, and I still don't quite understand it.

A little about me:
From age 15 to about 17, I cut deep and frequently.  When I was 17, I made it a little over 7 months without cutting, but then started again.  Now it's rare and not nearly as deep as before, but I still want to stop altogether. 
I used to overdose on pills a lot.
Whenever I was mad at myself I used to deprive my body of food for days at a time.
I've attempted suicide twice.

On a happier note:
I'm engaged to a wonderful man who loves me more than his own life. We're getting married in 2011 and I couldn't be happier.
I'm in college with a 3.7 GPA
I finally have my own place, and moving out was the best decision I've ever made.
I work at a movie theater, I'm the person that charges you outrageous prices for popcorn and cokes.  I used to be in telemarketing, but it really sucks getting cussed out every day, so I said fuck that.
I love music; I play piano, guitar, and drums.  My only tattoo is of a bass clef and an upside-down treble clef so it looks like a heart.
I love animals, I have a dog, hamster, and fish, soon to be getting a puppy.  My fiance wants a cat...like that's going to happen. ;)

So there's a little about me.  I just want to find other people who struggle with SI to talk to.  I want to help you get out of where I was, and I want to find someone to help me get out altogether.  I want to end this struggle, I want to not crave having a blade in my hand anymore, I want to fight this.

Thanks for taking the time to read this.  I'll be so happy to talk to any of you. =]
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help [16 Jan 2010|10:46pm]

nyxpiper
[ mood | distressed ]

i am a recovering cutter, havent cut for over 2 years... i think... maybe just under.... i dont remember anymore....
since then i havent been this ... i have never wanted to cut this badly...
.-."
my fiance may be losing her job soon, i am soo stressed over my spanish class... my gender issues have bloomed into full on crazy and i have no outlet for that that wont harm my life... all i have left is a knife

natalie

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Introduction [11 Jan 2010|05:37pm]

soubi202
[ mood | anxious ]

Hello, all. I rejoined LJ (I used to have a rather active account on here) specifically to join a community, mainly one for this subject.
Well, a bit of info about me..
I'm Chelsea.
I'm 16.
I'm female, in case you couldn't tell by my name.
I am currently seven and a half months NOT cutting or burning. I've bruised myself with that stupid rubber band "coping method" several times, and possibly caused some damage to my tendon. Need to get that checked out.
I was a very serious cutter. Two years ago, I just cut a lot, but shallow. Last year, I cut deep. I went to the ER three times, I think, and Urgent Care once.
I've been in a psychiatric hospital in IP twice, and then OP twice, also. For some odd reason, lately I've been wishing I was back there. I've dreamed about the dang place so often lately, and it's bothering the heck out of me.
I have bipolar, (I think depression), schizoaffective, and possibly borderline personality disorder (they haven't tested me yet, but they think I might).
I've been in therapy since second grade. Oh, and I've been harming myself all the way back to then.
I've been in therapy with my current therapist for almost four years, I believe. I love her. She's amazing. She does so much for me, and I wish EVERYONE who has problems or suffers from something could have a therapist like her.
My kitty, Jazmyndde, is my baby.
I've had a lot of trauma go on in my life, and some of it my mother says happened even though I don't remember a single thing like that.
On a brighter note, I play viola. I used to be an Irish dancer, but my anxiety and asthma took over.
I want to study psychology, criminology, neuropsychology, and music in college, among other things. I plan on being a criminal psychologist when I grow up. I'm extremely interested in how the brain works, how people tick, and why people function certain ways.
Well, I think that was an extremely long "bit of info", but oh well.
If you have any questions or comments, don't ever hesitate to speak up.

On yet another note... I'm home alone until at least 11 tonight. It's only 5:35, and I'm already going crazy trying not to cut. :/.

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support site [07 Jan 2010|01:29pm]
potterfreak1
hey i made a support site, as of earlier today it has 222 members and i just want to help as many people as i can.

it has a section on self harm amoung a lot of other sections...please join and post in welcome when you do join

http://selfhelp.yuku.com
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